When life knocks you down, you pick yourself up and keep going.
Life usually gives you glimpses of happiness to show you what beauty lies within it in the next phase of your life. A phase that includes a better version of you but to reach that place, we are given a list of challenges that we need to complete in order to see what lies above the level that you are currently at. Because lets be honest, nothing in life comes easy.
You know when you’re at your worst in life, like you’re at a dead end wondering if things could possibly get worse. Well yes, the answer is always yes until you’ve hit rock bottom and then the only way to go is up. I mean what harm could possibly happen in trying to find a way out of the pit of negativity that you’ve fallen into.
There are a number of challenges we face while wanting to get to the next phase, now I’m no expert but I have managed to stay sane and help others around me to get to a better place or at least feel better about whatever situation that is making them struggle. And their feedback has been nothing but positive, so I’m confident enough to tell you what challenges that you will face.
The best thing to know about a bad situation is that the only way to go is upwards.
One of the challenges was not being able to love myself and I had stopped trying because I was left so broken by whatever I was faced with. My mother noticed that I was constantly aloof and suggested that I needed to go to a therapist. And honestly that is one of the best things that happened to me. I love my therapist very much.
There was a lot of damage that needed to be undone and that’s something I couldn’t do myself.
Journey to a stronger more emotionally equipped you.
Like anything in life, therapy needs consistency and what you learn from it needs to be practiced.
There is no end to this journey.
For me, the first step that seemed necessary was to start working out. Gym is something that releases toxins and something that also tones your body up. My sole purpose to join the gym was toning myself enough to look and feel good, having a six pack or building muscles was never really part of the plan.
The goal was to look and feel good and of course eat all the chocolate in the world at any time of the day or night without having to worry about my weight.
Another habit that I developed was journaling, not to write pages and pages about heartache but to get my thoughts in one place where I could keep a track of my progress.
The goal for the longest time has been finding a forever person. I can't rush myself into it though, right? I need to get rid of the negativity about myself from within me and it was and still is a challenge.
One frustrating thing about me is that I have trouble letting go of the toxic people around me, I don’t know why I keep them around, they just exist in my life. That’s still one thing that I’m working on.
Another thing that I tell the people around me is that yes it is always easier said than done but taking a baby step won’t kill you. It just takes one step to make you realise the potential you have inside of you to work on yourself.
The thing about journaling is that even if you write one sentence a week, at least you wrote and that’s what matters at the end of the day.
You could even do that on your phone actually, write one thing you’re grateful for or one thing that you want to work on. It could literally be anything but it’s a step forward and you made a move and you deserve a pat on the back for it.
Side note — Starting the process may seem difficult but once you get the hang of it, it feels so good. The ultimate goal is to feel strong enough to push the negativity out of our system or at least back it up in a corner where it becomes irrelevant.
There’s more to this article but I will end this Phase 1 here. Stay tuned for more!
Remember you are loved and you will be ok one day, hopefully soon!