Theres never a right way to navigate our way into relationships.

Marriages are different, you can’t just leave. It’s a contract of a lifetime.

I’m tired of waiting for ‘the one’. I know he’s nearby somewhere but I don’t know when he’ll make himself visible.

I decided a long time ago that I would hand my fate in my parents hands because I don’t trust my judgement or taste in people.

I know it shouldn’t all be about a boy but somehow it always comes back to that. Finding my person is the ultimate goal and has been for a while.

It’s like a longing for someone.

When you’re at that point in life, there are so many ‘what ifs’ that come into mind. Your whole sanity is a gamble.

Relationships are different, there’s a way out if things don’t work out. No matter how difficult, there’s always the option of leaving. Marriages are different, you can’t just leave. It’s a contract of a lifetime.

The unforeseen future has so much power over us. It fills you with self doubt time and time again and makes you question your whole being.

I was talking to a friend the other day about relationships and her perspective is what most people probably have of relationships but I don’t know if that’s the right way to go about it. In her sequence love comes first and then respect and understanding.

Is that how it should be though? I know that everyone has their own way of navigating through relationships but you don’t just jump in head first and then expect them to love you right there and then.

Respect and understanding comes first and then as you get to know each other, a bond is created which eventually leads to love and affection.

How am I supposed to love you when I don’t know you well enough. I should peel off the layers first, really get to know who you are and then I’ll fall in love with you right?

I wouldn’t want to jump in head first.

I’d dip my feet into the ocean and get myself to adjust to the temperature. Go a little further, peel another layer, dance together to our favorite song and somewhere along the line without realising it, I’m fully inside the ocean. All the layers peeled off, comfortable within our silence and craving for more of each other.

I don’t know who you are or where you are but I’m excited about the life that I’ll have with you inshaAllah. (if Allah wills it)

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